Why Mindfulness?
Parenting a strong-willed child can feel like living with a tiny tornado: intense emotions, lightning-fast reactions, and endless pushback. It’s easy to feel like you’re constantly firefighting.
Mindfulness gives you the tools to step out of reactivity, regulate your nervous system, and respond from your values, not your stress.
But it’s not just for you.
When practiced with your child—even in simple ways—mindfulness becomes a powerful bridge to better communication, fewer power struggles, and more resilience for both of you.
The Science: Why It Works
Mindfulness has been shown to:
- Reduce emotional reactivity in kids and adults
→ Practicing mindfulness helps you both pause before reacting (Zelazo & Lyons, 2012) - Boost prefrontal cortex function
→ Mindfulness improves decision-making, patience, and impulse control (Tang et al., 2015) - Strengthen parent-child relationships
→ Parents who practice mindfulness report more warmth, less yelling, and deeper connection (Parent et al., 2016) - Lower cortisol (stress hormone)
→ Practicing mindfulness decreases anxiety and helps with emotional recovery from stress (Bazzano et al., 2015) - Increase resilience
→ Kids who practice mindfulness bounce back faster from challenges and manage big feelings with more ease (Meiklejohn et al., 2012)
How Mindfulness Helps with SWCs
Strong-willed children tend to feel everything more intensely. Their nervous systems can tip into “fight” or “freeze” quickly—and often take longer to return to calm.
Mindfulness doesn’t suppress these traits—it supports emotional growth by teaching your child to:
- Name and notice their feelings
- Understand what’s happening in their body
- Practice calming their nervous system with your help
And when they see you doing it too? They learn it’s safe to slow down. Safe to feel. Safe to connect.
How to Practice Mindfulness With Your Child
No need for silence or incense. Here are several simple, science-backed strategies that work in real parenting life:
1️⃣ The Five Senses Game
Helps shift from overwhelm to grounded awareness.
How: Pause and take a breath. Then take turns naming:
5 things you see
4 things you can touch
3 things you hear
2 things you smell
1 thing you taste (or wish you could taste)
5 things you see
4 things you can touch
3 things you hear
2 things you smell
1 thing you taste (or wish you could taste)
🧠 Why it works: Anchors your child in their body and present-moment awareness. Calms the amygdala (fear center) and re-engages the thinking brain.
2️⃣ 3-Breath Pause (Co-regulate together)
Teaches emotional self-awareness.
How:
- Breath 1: Notice what your body feels like
- Breath 2: Name the feeling out loud
- Breath 3: Choose a kind next step
🧠 Why it works: Creates a pause between feeling and action. Helps both you and your child build emotional vocabulary and regulation.
3️⃣ Mindful Transitions
Create moments of calm during daily stress points.
Try:
- “Let’s take a 5-second stillness moment before we go inside.”
- “Before homework, let’s take 3 lion breaths together.”
- “As we buckle up, what’s one word for how your body feels right now?”
🧠 Why it works: Mindful transitions reduce stress spikes and help prevent power struggles before they start.
4️⃣ Bedtime Body Scan (For Kids!)
Great way to wind down together.
How: With the lights low, slowly guide your child to notice their toes, legs, belly, arms, etc., inviting them to soften or relax each one.
🧠 Why it works: Builds interoception (body awareness), reduces bedtime anxiety, and nurtures emotional safety.
5️⃣ “Noticing Moments” Journal
Invite mindfulness through reflection.
How: At dinner or bedtime, ask:
- “What’s one moment you really noticed today?”
- “What did your body or heart feel like then?”
Write or draw together in a notebook once a week.
🧠 Why it works: Boosts attention, gratitude, and self-awareness—especially for kids who move fast through life.
Mindfulness doesn’t fix everything. It doesn’t prevent tantrums or make parenting effortless.
But it changes the environment in which your child grows.
It helps you co-regulate. Repair. Reconnect.
It helps you co-regulate. Repair. Reconnect.
And most importantly—it teaches your child that calm is a skill they can learn, not something they must earn.
You don’t need perfect presence.
Just the willingness to slow down with them, over and over again.
Let that be enough today.
“Mindfulness isn’t difficult. We just need to remember to do it.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
👣 Start Here This Week
Pick one of the five practices above and try it once a day. That’s it.
You’ll be amazed at the ripple effect even one mindful moment can have.
Need a printable “Mindfulness Cheat Sheet” to keep handy? Click here to get your copy—I’m happy to share!
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Begin Within
and align with the rhythm of nature and self.
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